Nights Without Momma

In Becky's absence, her husband, David is filling in...................

Have you ever heard the statement "an engine is only as good as it's parts" or "A coach is only as good as his team players". That is so true for the family like I have. My kids Haley, Holden and Harrison do not rest easy when mom is away. The house seems more in turmoil, the food taste old and the kids are asking the same question every night (especially Harrison) "When is Momma coming home"? I really had a taste of this on Wednesday night when I put my son Harrison to bed. Harrison was as always two fingers in mouth clutching his buddy to the degree that the whites were showing in his knuckles. I gave him a big hug and kiss and told him repeatedly how much Daddy loves him. I retired to the downstairs only to hear a faint cry coming from the upstairs. I immediately had thoughts of either buddy has gone MIA or brother or sister has hurt his feelings. I went upstairs and opened the door and slowly moved to his bedside, Harrison immediately rose and hugged me tight around my neck crying and asking how much he missed his momma and when was she coming home. God puts us in a place in this world to serve him to our best abilities and to bring others to him as well. I feel my wife was put on this earth to be my partner and "the" mother to my children. Days go by and go by when it is hard to step back and look at all the blessings we are given and I struggle with that every day. My wife being adopted has spent the majority of her life with a small part of her past missing. By what my wife has experienced over the years taking care of me and raising these kids we have I feel she has a deeper appreciation of what it takes to be a mom and a wife. The beauty about the whole thing is as we grow older (and hopefully wiser) together the love for our kids and each other grows stronger. Contrary to current lifestyles and divorce people in today's world do not take time to look deep inside and really ask themselves what they are seeking. If you would spend time with the "good book" you would know that what you are seeking you will never find with a new spouse, a bigger house, or a fancier car. God put that need in your heart and soul to seek him. What we do on a daily basis is to materialize that need to earthly possessions and we will never be satisfied until we turn to him and look deep inside. As I grow as a man, a husband, a father I struggle with this as well. I do however have a deep appreciation for what my wife is to me and who she has become. She is part of me and she is what keeps my ship floating and steaming ahead. To all who read this, take one thing away from it. I know everyone does not know my wife as I do but look at your family, your wife or husband, parents and grandparents and reflect on what they mean to you and how long it has been since you have told them how you feel. Life is but a fleeting moment, I know that is a popular cliche but it holds more truth than you know. Someone told me something one time that really has stuck in my fading memory. When you are on your dying bed what do you think about; how big your house is, the size of your bank account, how many cars or boats you have. The thing you think about is who is at your bedside and have you told your loved ones how much they mean to you. The most important thing you should also feel comfort in is your relationship with the almighty. Do not wait, do not say I will do it tomorrow! Tell the people that mean the most to you how you feel including God. I love my wife and I appreciate everything she does and I am writing this to let her know that. I am looking forward to Sunday when she returns and I know she will be tired but she will be glad to be back where she belongs, "with her family"